Don’t Settle

Years ago my husband and I moved to a remote, small town in Kansas and started the arduous process of renovating a 100-year-old house. My father was a big help in this process. In fact, I’m not sure we would have accomplished what we did had he not been there to help us.

We finally got to the point where I needed to pick out cabinets for the kitchen. We had redesigned things and the kitchen was large and had the flow that we wanted. We had visited with several businesses trying to find the right cabinets. We wanted to use our local hardware/lumber store to order and purchase them. The problem was they didn’t have the design or color that I wanted.

Renovating a large, old house and having small children was stressful. Making decisions was stressful. I remember my dad saying, “I don’t understand, why aren’t you having fun?” I couldn’t see the fun in anything back then. It just all seemed like a lot of work. Also, the fact that we basically lived in the middle of nowhere made shopping and decision making even harder.

So, back to the cabinets. I decided I would settle. That I could make the cabinets that the local hardware/lumber store work in our kitchen. My dad looked at me with that halfway smile where one side comes up into an expression of questioning, and said, “Don’t settle, hold out for what you really want.”

Well, I took his advice. I went to the owner of the local store and explained what I truly wanted. This time he started the search and found exactly what I wanted. He got them ordered and my dad and husband put them up.

I can’t tell you how many times over the years people walked into our kitchen and said it was beautiful and how they loved the cabinets. The color, the style, everything about them was lovely.

So, sometimes I have to remind myself that we don’t always have to settle. Sometimes it’s worth it to hold out for what you really want.

Have a wonderful day and I hope you get something you truly wish for!

4 thoughts on “Don’t Settle

  1. Hi Tomi – Not sure how I missed this post, but I did, so I’m late to comment. But I understand exactly what you’re talking about. First, things like that can definitely be stressful—it’s like planning a wedding. It’s supposed to be fun, but every decision matters because there is no opportunity for a do-over. We just moved to the Florida Gulf coast, and we have to buy hurricane impact windows for our condo. It’s a big expense, so we can’t get it wrong. We have to get it right the first time, because if we don’t like how it looks, we’re just stuck with it. So there is pressure there to get it right. Kitchen cabinets are the same way—too expensive to make an error! But your dad was 100% correct too, and for the same reason. When it’s something you have to live with for a long time, you’re better off to hold out for what you really want!

    1. Hi,
      Thanks for taking the time to comments. I always enjoy your posts. I receive them through my email. I have been busy with work so I am behind on some of my reading. I hope you find the perfect windows. We have been doing college visits with my daughter and I have shared with her the advice from my dad. I think we just know when we find something we love and it’s important in life to not settle.

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